Recommendation for book about parenting and racism

It's not a how-to manual, but you might get some useful insight/perspective from "Between the World and Me" by Ta-Nehisi Coates if you haven't read it already. I'm sure other commenters will have lots of good ideas, too.

Adult books (to help you see race):NurtureShock (the race chapter): https://amzn.to/2KtnlFU
Who's Afraid of Post-Blackness: https://amzn.to/2ILWUhuPart Asian, 100% Hapa: https://amzn.to/2GobC9hUnderstanding White Privilege: https://amzn.to/2k0k71pWhistling Vivaldi: https://amzn.to/2k1ONPPWhite Like Me: https://amzn.to/2rNw6DKFire In the Heart: https://amzn.to/2L3w4zMWhy Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: https://amzn.to/2k0SAwR
Uprooting Racism: https://amzn.to/2L6TRiuMultiplication is for White People: https://amzn.to/2rLGpbDSister Citizen: https://amzn.to/2rOyAku
Black White Other: https://amzn.to/2rRmtn4Clearly Invisible: https://amzn.to/2rKV0Ei Kid's books (to help them see race):Shades of People: https://amzn.to/2KtBa7dLet's Talk About Race: https://amzn.to/2L5Jk71

Mixed: Portraits of Multiracial Kids: https://amzn.to/2IJUHmR

The longest Shortest Time Podcast did a great series on this topic. Here is a link to some of their recommended reading.

https://longestshortesttime.com/talking-with-kids-about-race-and-racism

I have a couple of recommendations. The first chapter of a book called Nurture Shock is good. It is called something like "Why white people don't talk to their kids about race." For a whole book, you may want to considering "Whistling Vivaldi" which I've read with groups and, while it doesn't address parenting directly, it raises so many of the relevant issues, that it is great for provoking discussion about the subtle ways that racism is perpetuated and could certainly be applied to parenting. Children learn racism not just by talking (or not) about race, but by their parent's subtle and unconscious actions.

Good luck and thank you for prioritizing this topic.

If you'd be willing to consider an alternative to a book, Shakti Butler has several movies that would be great for stimulating conversation, as would Allison-Briscoe Smith's talk, "How to Talk to your Kids about Race"

I am not understandinf why the public  kindergarten is NOT  ethnically diverse. That might be the first step...

A book by Marguerite Wright called I'm Chocolate, Your Vanilla.

And teaching tolerance has a fantastic video about preschoolers who teach about diversity and difference )including ethnicity, disability etc).
 

I really got a lot out of "Are We Born Racist?" (edited by Jason Marsh, Rodolfo Mendoza-Denton, and Jeremy Adam Smith). It's a collection of essays with research findings from neuroscience and psychology about racism and prejudice, especially in relation to child development. The essays are all pretty short/ readable.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11167222-are-we-born-racist

How about reading some kiddy lit?  I just came across this and it seems to be a good resource:  https://socialjusticebooks.org/booklists/

Personally I’ve found it hard to find books for kids  that treat this well. Eg I’ve found some that treat skin color in as reductionist a manner as race itself. And they tend to be addressed the white kids only.

Perhaps a visit to Marcus Books in Oakland might be worth your time too.  

PS- sorry- I missed your point about getting kids' books next time. 

If you’re open to media other than books, Kamau Bell had a funny, thoughtful, parent-oriented segment on This American Life: https://www.thisamericanlife.org/557/birds-bees 

(TAL and ProPublica did some great work on housing discrimination and school segregation too).

This seems like a good resource too- I haven’t been able to attend their webinars- usu. happens during dinner time for us.  But lots of parenting resources here, founded by an interracial couple back east:

http://www.embracerace.org

Another take is to learn more about racial justice, history, etc., as parents, and discuss how to go forward in raising yhour kids, presumbly, not to pass racism down to them.  I’ve found these very insightful for my journey:

Bryan Stevenson, founder of the Equal Justice Initiative, and the genius behind the new lynching museum in Alabama:

https://www.themarshallproject.org/2015/06/24/bryan-stevenson-on-charle…

Stamped from the Beginning, Ibrahim X. Kendi An intellectual history of racism in the US, through the lives of a handful of American thinkers/writers, from Cotton Mather, Thos. Jefferson, to W. E. B. DuBois and Angela Davis.

The Invention of Race: https://www.mprnews.org/story/2017/12/05/the_invention_of_race  Based on a really great 14 episode podcast called Seeing White, published by the Center for Documentary Studies out of Duke: http://podcast.cdsporch.org/seeing-white/

Robin DiAngelo, on white privilege (22 min video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DwIx3KQer54

Uncivil, an interesting podcast about untold or forgotten stories about the Civil War, that won a Peabody: https://www.gimletmedia.com/uncivil

Nikole Hannah Jones of the NYT has done a lot of interesting reporting on education and race (h/t to her for the term,"curated diversity"):  https://twitter.com/nhannahjones

Pod Save the People, DeRay McKesson's (of Ferguson fame) current events podcast.  CodeSwitch, an NPR podcast on race and race relations.

A lot of black twitter is a good way to learn (sorry- I'm assuming you and your kids are white; our family passes as neither black nor white).

HTH,