Loving camp for 2e girl (10)?

While my kids don't have the same diagnosis you describe, they both are extremely slow to warm up/reserved/shy to the point of withdrawn, and both really enjoyed Monkey Business Camp when they were about 10 & 8. (2019) It's all outside at Tilden and has a very mellow, fun vibe. The counselors change somewhat year to year but it seems that the model really values connection and activity.

Seconding the recommendation for Monkey Business -- it also really helps the programming is multiple weeks, rather than the week-long chaos that many other camps have. We used to have good experiences with Trackers for our 2e child, but the overall leadership has changed a lot, and we've had mixed success with counselors. There used to be more continuity from year to year. Our older child (2e) is now trying out being a CIT at Monkey Business, which I would never have expected was possible, but they have strong ties with the leadership, the past counselors, and I really feel safe that my kid is getting both emotional support and engaging activities. Hope you find that to be true for your family, too!

Update September 2024:

I'd like to rescind my earlier recommendation of Monkey Business for neurodivergent kids. 

Unfortunately, despite proactive efforts as a parent to make sure the camp felt able to support/accommodate my child before camp started, before the CIT orientation, and afterwards, the camp sent our kid home an hour into the first day of their CIT role. Our kid had been nervous about the responsibilities of being placed with younger kids (they were originally told they'd be with a different age group), and we shared that concern with the camp prior to the session. Our child wanted to share their concerns with the staff, but we (parents) were told to share talking points with them, rather than have any of the staff directly speak to our kid. Autistic kids (and non-autistic kids!) can struggle with changed expectations, which can be disorienting and stressful, which this shift in camper group was for our kid. On the first morning, they [my child] handled their anxiety by making a statement the camp deemed unacceptable. The comment was not harmful or radically inappropriate for a 12 year old person not always aware of the impact of their statements, and it seemed to us an opportunity for the staff to help our kid understand their new role as a CIT. Instead, I received a call from one of the co-owners asking me to come get them. The camp took 2 days to respond to our email (sent that same evening) expressing our disappointment and confusion about their decision, and their response focused on blaming our kid for their actions. There was no opportunity for a learning opportunity for our kid, and our child was so distraught and confused by the way it was handled, especially after many years as a camper. For the next two weeks they asked if they could try again. The day they were sent home they sobbed and sobbed because they genuinely didn't understand what had just happened or why they had to leave. 

Neurodivergent kids get an unjustly high amount of recrimination and blame for their differences, and in the past, we had found Monkey Business to be a supportive environment. Perhaps because our child is now older (and thus often perceived as more mature than they are) or because the camp hadn't fully considered the implications for the staff, there was no opportunity for repair or rebuilding the relationship. It should be noted that CITs pay for camp at a slightly reduced rate, but our expectation was that it was a taste of having a job, thus the relationship ought to have between the staff and the CITs, not asking the parents to be the go-betweens when the camp felt ill-equipped to respond or to support our kid. It is both a working relationship, but given the cost to be a CIT, our child was also a young person for whom the camp has some responsibility to nurture. 

It seems that many camps in the Bay Area have started implementing 'behavior as a choice,' but failing to take any ownership or responsibility for how the camps/staff understand children of differing capacities and abilities. It is a very unilateral relationship -- we pay for the camps, the kids can be sent home for struggling (regardless of whether staff are actually listening or adapting in a reasonable way), and parents then lose money to a program that uses this model as a way to justify not reimbursing or being accountable for the kids' experiences. I also appreciate that staffing for child-oriented organizations is hard, and that not everyone is well-versed in child development or neurodiversity. But it is harmful to our kids, and so my best advice for those with 2e or other kids is to be clear from the outset about the things you want the camps/organizations to know, and to not hesitate to ask those questions before you sign up. It's hard, and wearing, but protecting our kids from this kind of trauma (and yes, it is trauma), is important.

Take a look at Camp Augusta. They have a really great approach and better/more training than usual camp counselors. Our gifted group of 2E kids frequented the family camp many years in a row when my kids were younger. Highly recommend. https://campaugusta.org

+1 for camp augusta where my (low support needs) autistic, ADD + anxiety nature loving 14 year old daughter has gone for many years - it's her happy place.