How do your high schoolers track their daily homework assignments?

This is the perfect example of a manageable challenge that your teen needs to master herself to help her to prepare for life on her own one day. Let it go and look at it as an opportunity for her to develop some organization skills of her own. She is clearly doing pretty well! She is 14 and should be responsible for all her own homework. I don't even think you should ask about it. Instead, think about the fact that she will go to college in 4 years!! Keep focused on making your relationship good and strong. Be the support she needs, keep the communication open, give her unconditional love. Don't nag about homework. 

Both my kids struggled with this to varying degrees (we're almost done with high school fortunately), and it was quite frustrating as a parent because I would see what could have been an A turn into a B because of not turning in HW. We're in SF so systems may be different but all the HW assiignments should be listed on line, however not all teachers are good about that. Also if they write the HW on the whiteboard a lot of teachers nowadays allow the kids to take out their phones at the end of class and photograph this although why this is better than writing it in your notebook is beyond me. Taking notes is a super important skill for high school and college that may be hampered by excessive orientation to devices. But the bottom line is, when your kid develops her own motivation to do her best in school, she will get it.

This sounds frustrating for you, I'm sorry.

If your school has an online grade book, most high schools do, this can be an excellent tool for tracking assignments.  Caution: avoid obsessing - use for a once a week check in at most, let your teen manage it day to day.
Many high schools also hand out paper planners at the beginning of the year (a little late for that this year, but keep in mind for next).
There are also a number of mobile phone apps for tracking assignments which your teen may be more willing to use than a paper planner or notebook.

High school is the time for teens to take responsibility for themselves and gain increasingly more independence.  It's common for even the strongest students to miss or forget assignments occasionally.  I high recommend not getting into a power struggle over this.  It make take your daughter seeing the consequences of her decisions to change.  I say this having two high schoolers - one highly independent, organized, and motivated; the other the complete opposite with ADHD to boot.  After years of scaffolding the challenging one, he became resistant. I backed off, his grades dropped dramatically.  Ours is a far end of the spectrum situation, and resulted in move to a better fit school when my teen now accepts the support of an academic coach for these types of things.  If done lovingly but firmly, most teens will learn from consequences experienced from the real world (school and dropping grades), much better than from parents (home and nagging and/or "consequences").

I highly recommend  "The Blessings of a B-".

Take a deep breath. Your role is now to counsel (not manage) your teen.  Good luck.

I think you should let it go. Your daughter has great grades so she is obviously doing fine. Freshman year is a big transition and this is how she learns, by making mistakes. Your daily reminders are stressing her out. My daughter is also a freshman and I never check her assignments or grades before they are final, which are all online for me to see if I want to.  Y'all are doing great!

Hi, there. I don't know how your daughter's school approaches this, but in Berkeley each student is provided with planner at the beginning of the school year, starting in middle school. They have all the school holidays printed in, are laid out for the week, with a section on each day for each period, plus handy tables, contact information, and student artwork. At Berkeley High, parent donations (via BHS Development Group) pay for every student to get a planner. By the time high school rolls around, a planner is a necessary item these days. If the school doesn't provide one, I would buy one for her, and I would approach your school's PTA and other leadership to discuss how important this is for student success. I hope this helps!

My son was terrible about this - he either wanted to rely on his memory (maybe) or (I think more likely) he wanted to forget about the assignment because he didn't want to do it.  Unlike your daughter, he had Bs and Cs because he would also forget about tests.  I looked up his homework online every day and bugged him about it, for a long time, which I now regret doing because I think it hampered rather than helped his development of skills in this area.  After a year of managing everything on his own at college, he is now MUCH better about remembering and managing deadlines. He still doesn't really like to write stuff down, though.  Maybe suggest that she send herself a text message at the end of class with the assignment? Somehow using one's phone is more palatable to a teen. They seem to hate paper a LOT. 

My 8th grader reluctantly writes down some of his assignments in a planner that pretty much everyone in the school has (school sold them for $8 at the start of the year). Teachers are good about telling kids to write down assignments though it still doesn't always take. When he forgets to turn in an assignment and then gets an 80% instead of 100%, I talk to him about how sad it is that he missed out on all those easy points because he forgot to turn in the assignment on time. It seems to be slowly helping the forgetting. I'm not sure he'll ever remember to write down most of his assignments. I'm okay with it because he generally doesn't forget to do his assignments, just occasionally forgets to turn them in.

Honestly, if I want compliance on something, the only way I know I will get it is if I tell him I will take away his phone if he doesn't do it. If your daughter were my child and I really wanted to make sure she were writing down all her assignments, I would check her notebook every night and if she didn't write down her assignments or turned in something late, I would take away her phone for 24 hours. It doesn't seem like this rises to the level of her needing to do that though since she is doing relatively well in school.

My daughter, high school senior, has used a weekly planner notebook since 7th grade. In her public middle school the weekly planner system was required and each teacher would check to make sure the students were writing down each assignment and due date. This fortunately got my daughter in excellent planning habits. I recommend trying this out to see if it helps.

I sympathize! My kid has never used the BUSD-provided tracking calendar, even in middle school when his teachers actively encouraged the habit. He's a junior now at BHS, and still way off in organizational skills, but is very slowly improving. He has a tutor, Kevin Arnold https://www.berkeleyparentsnetwork.org/recommend/org/kevin-arnold, who has worked with him for a couple of years on both writing and organization. He's been a good support system, but it's been slow, as my son is pretty resistant to change. I agree with a few earlier posters that constantly nagging your kid can easily end badly, especially if they are [as mine is] not at all interested in parental 'advice'. We've tried having him take a picture of whiteboards, asking teachers to send weekly assignments via email, special 'turn-in' folders, sitting at the front of the class... all without much success. Our system now is that when he has a certain number of missing or zero point assignments that are detrimental to his overall grade in the class, and the grade is still down after 2 weeks, he loses internet access until the assignments are taken care of or the grade improves. So far, it's worked better than anything else we've tried. We don't argue about it as much [it can be really hard for me to stay quiet about stuff!], and he seems to recognize that he is responsible for getting his online access back. He has talked with his teachers about his problems with losing and forgetting assignments, and all but one allow him to turn things in a little late. And I'm not super strict about it; if he puts in a great effort on something and it shows, I'll turn the router back on for a bit. I think he needs to see that even small steps in the right direction help a lot. Good luck. 

It's been many years since my daughters were at Berkeley High, but one of the tools they used (just prior to the advent of a google or outlook calendar) was the Organizer, a date-book, spiral bound paper planner where they could write their assignments, deadlines, notes, etc. It is a habit that stays with them to this day, despite their hot phones. OK, there were social notes, TV and movie lists, and non-school activities, but colored pencils, stickers and highlighters enlivened the entries. The Organizer was distributed to each student and it was a common habit for many students. Their book, their responsibility, their habit. And if they failed to meet a deadline or turn in an assignment, their failure. I think the teachers were in on the gig too - reminding students to write it down. High school is the time for students to get with the program, develop the habit. Gosh, I've used that word four times!

Ask her what would help her keeping track of homework.  Maybe a notepad is not the best tool for her, I hated those myself.  She might prefer a calendar planner or an app.  There are some amazing apps now that link to a program on your desktop and to your calendar.  If she has a smartphone and uses its calendar function it should be pretty seamless to incorporate school assignment into it.  It is great skill to develop for college too.  I would not do the monitoring for her but get her the tools that work for her to help her keep track of them herself.  

We have the exact same struggles with our son who is a 9th grader as well.

I know that he has aptitude for being organized based on how he approached his work in elementary school up thru 6th or early 7th grade, but it has been downhill since then culminating in many missing HW assignments and a project by the end of 8th grade.  His middle school really emphasized the use of daily planners so we let him try to figure out how best to use it to keep himself organized for most of those years.  But after so many missing assignments in 8th grade, we instituted a no-tolerance policy for missing HW's in 9th grade by the end of a grading period, or there would be serious consequences.  

My husband and I have always emphasized best efforts, and not grades, but that is so subjective and hard to judge.  But, I explained, one clear indication of best effort is 100% success rate with take home assignments.  At a minimum, he needs to keep track of and do those assignments.  Fortunately (for all of us), he got the message and figured out how to stay on top of most due dates, largely in his head -- while there were a few hustles to work out a missing assignment here and there with his teachers (and a missed orthodontic appointment!), he has managed to keep his official HW record in perfect order.

One last thing I'd say about pushing him to use a planner -- he has a full extracurricular life with sports and music but I've told him that I believe that he could use help not just with keeping everything organized on a daily basis but with being able to plan ahead for quizzes, tests or other major assignments.  He did very poorly on a test recently because he had only started studying the night before.  So with 3+ weeks left for school, we are now requiring him to pick any calendar system and (with my initial help) use it to map out what he will need to do to prepare for all of the last quizzes, tests, projects and final exams.  He may not end up liking whatever system he chooses but he can start something new in 10th grade.