I want a 3rd child, he doesn't - couples therapist?

Hi everyone, we are a cis-straight couple with 2 young toddlers. My husband is a very loving and dedicated father. He is a naturalized citizen, originally from a country with 'machismo' culture, plus he grew up in a military household. All of this to say - many American ideas of modern parenting aren't his style. On most days, our parenting dance gets along. While he is more of a disciplinarian and I am more of the nurturer, we do try to meet in the middle. Here comes the rub: I would like a 3rd child, but he is adamant that he is done. He is fulfilled with 2 kids. I am trying to see it from his side and have realized that he is exhausted from the daily grind of having small children, the neediness, lack of independence, perpetual noise, mess, etc. When he gives, he gives 100%, but he also needs a lot of downtime. On the other hand, I thrive in motherhood and all the chaos that comes with it. I keep the house running, and I feel my job as the mother to be more important to me than any other job. We are at a standstill. More recently, we have been able to talk about this without ending in anger, frustration and tears. That's a big improvement, but I would like some therapist recommendations as well, however, one who has experience with working with not only biracial couples, but also understand men who aren't used to talking (and never saw the need for it). In fact, I am sure that he will initially see my foray into couples' counseling more for me than for him, but I hope the therapist can add value to his side too! I am happy to hear your experiences, thoughts, recommendations. Thanks!