Child whose love language is gifts

I’ve noticed that my younger child seems to feel and express love most strongly through gifts, and I’m wondering if anyone can help me figure out how to communicate in this “love language.” I was moved to think about this recently when she gathered her first big crop of Halloween candy and then spent the following weeks continually giving pieces away (even though she adores sweets). It really brought home to me that she sees giving as a way of expressing love; when she craves presents, it isn’t just because she wants to accumulate as much as she can. 

I naturally express love through words and cuddles (which she is ambivalent about), and my default sense is that presents should be occasional things, that I shouldn’t say yes every time she wants something, etc. But obviously I also don’t want her to feel like I only really say “I love you” on her birthday and Christmas. I’m guessing the solution is to find little things that don’t seem excessive to give often—like notes, pictures, stickers. Has anyone else come up with good ideas?

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