Best Place to Move for Autistic 3 year old daughter

Dear Group, 

I am looking for the best place to live for my autistic 3 year old daughter. I am debating between Berkeley, Albany, Walnut Creek, or Pleasant Hill (because these would be most convenient logistically) but open to other areas if there are better fits.

I am looking for:

-Neuro-affirming and accepting community where she can make nice friends and be accepted and celebrated 

- Close to school programs that are good for autistic children/youth (either public or private or hybrid)

- Close to nature, trails, nice parks, community gardens, places that are quiet and serene

- Safety (she is a child, a girl, and her environmental awareness, at least at age 3, is not great)

- Strong dance program/community (she loves dance!)

-Strong music/arts/performing arts programs and community (this is something our family values and she also gravitates toward)

- Opportunities for some sports like swimming, etc (she is not a very sporty or the most coordinated child but it would be good for her to have opportunities since this would help her coordination and constipation issues)

- Not cut-throat pressure in school (of course I don't even know what type of school she will be in at this point. I do know she is pretty self-directed, gets overstimulated with too many kids/noise, and is more on the intellectual side from what I have observed so far).

- Neuro-affirming play spaces and therapy centers nearby (eg I know of Spirited Play Labs, EACS, and Child's Play OT, Xenophon therapeutic horse riding, but not sure if you know of others)

-Opportunities for science and tech exploration if she ends up liking those

My daughter's profile:
She loves books and music the most. She loves memorizing and reciting books or tv programs. She likes math and language too. 

She is very slow to trust and feel comfortable around new people/strangers. She can feel quite anxious with new people.

She has a very gentle disposition and is an emotionally sensitive little girl (the sponge of other people's emotions) so a gentle and loving environment would be nice

She can become passive and go into freeze or avoidance mode when anxious or overstimulated. This can make her a bit of a target for other kids her age who I have seen be mean to her or boss her around. 

She is very playful, delightful and interactive with those she is close to (family)

She voices a strong desire to play with other kids but then gets anxious or  overstimulated and then shies away.
She is a gestalt language processor with a strong memory. Not sure if this is relevant.

Thank you so much for your time and help. Moving from our current location to find a better place for her, and it is a big decision. So any help is much appreciated.