To move or not to move: Seeking a consultant

Hello,

I am not sure if such a service exists, but hoping this community can provide some insight! We are up against a few tough decisions about whether or not to move. The primary factors are cost of living and childcare, whether or not to sell our current home, and what makes most sense in the short and long term. These decisions are complicated and loaded, and we are wondering if there is a type of consultant or service who specializes in helping families figure this out! Not really looking for a therapist, but more so someone who could help advise on the logistical considerations or structure our conversations with a different approach. Also not looking for a financial advisor, but maybe someone who understands the multiple, complicated demands of making decisions like this with young children. 

Does this unicorn exist?? 

Dec 13, 2023

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To move or not to move: Seeking a consultant (Dec 13, 2023)

No, this would be something you could discuss with a financial advisor or a therapist (perhaps a couples therapist).

Although you could certainly post a more detailed query here on BPN where the many voices can chime in!

Dec 15, 2023
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To move or not to move: Seeking a consultant (Dec 13, 2023)

I would suggest first to narrow down where you might move? Many on this site can give good info on different parts of world to live.  After having a good idea of where, then tackle next steps, childcare etc

Dec 20, 2023
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To move or not to move: Seeking a consultant (Dec 13, 2023)

Try reading the book Money and Love: An Intelligent Road Map for Life's Biggest Decisions by Myra Strober and Abby Davisson. I have heard the both of them talk and they are very interesting. Their book is based on a course at Stanford. Good luck with your life decisions!

Blurb from Amazon:

MONEY & LOVE: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life’s Biggest Decisions is a guide for navigating life’s most consequential and daunting decisions using research-based insights road-tested in a popular Stanford University course.

Should I move in with this person? Should I quit my job? When is the “right time” to have another child? All these life-altering questions at the juncture of money and love can be overwhelming. Often, we answer them either by staying overly rational or by only listening to our – at times fickle – hearts. Hardly ever, when faced with daunting questions, do we have the keys to combine both head and heart in a balanced and fulfilling way.

Labor economist and Stanford Professor Emerita Myra Strober and social innovation leader Abby Davisson know that in our daily lives money and love are interdependent. Whereas most decision-making guides focus only on one or the other, Money and Love shows us and our loved ones how to consider them jointly using the original, step-by-step 5Cs method:

  • CLARIFY: Consider what you want vs. don’t through self-reflection.
  • COMMUNICATE: Include input from those who will be impacted by your decisions in your decision-making process.
  • CHOICES: Broaden your perspectives to open up your options. 
  • CHECK IN: Ask around for advice, guidance, and resources.
  • CONSEQUENCES: Consider the effects of your decisions and how that may impact all aspects of your life.

At a time when we are experiencing the most significant shift in work-life balance in decades – marked by remote work, the Great Reshuffle, and a mass reconfiguring of family dynamics and social/professional networks – Strober and Davisson’s framework offers simple and effective steps to empower readers to make the best strategic decisions without having to sacrifice their careers or personal lives.

https://www.amazon.com/Money-Love-Intelligent-Roadmap-Decisions/dp/0063…

Dec 20, 2023