Therapist for navigating aging parent

Hi hive mind, I’m looking for a therapist who can help me navigate my relationship with an aging parent. She has been in a downward spiral since divorcing 10 years ago. She has a general victim mentality and I’ve experienced years of manipulation which makes it hard to decipher what are real vs perceived needs. She is aging and is also having financial challenges and I’m spinning on how to support her in a way that doesn’t make me drown in the process. I have limited mental health benefits through work (UnitedHealthcare) but willing to pay out of pocket for a strong therapist. Thank you!